Life by design
stop abandoning yourself
Monthly coaching support to rebuild self-trust and reconnect to your inner authority.
Does this feel like your daily life?
Self abandonment in relationships and work often starts as a "slow leak." You might recognize these patterns of self betrayal:
Outside Influence: Asking everyone else’s opinion because you don't know how to build trust in yourself.
Boundary Blur: Struggling with defining boundaries and feeling guilty when you try to set the boundaries.
The "Yes" Trap: Saying yes when you mean no—a classic form of self abandonment.
Rumination: Repeating thoughts of past experiences, a core symptom of self sabotage.
How self betrayal opens the door to major betrayal: When you stop listening to your own human design inner authority, you lose your seat at the table of your own life.
Reconnecting your inner authority
This isn't "Woo-Woo" coaching. This is structure coaching designed to help you move from mental static to body certainty. As your mindset coach, I provide trauma informed coaching that uses your human design chart as a practical user manual to life.
We use shadow self work to ensure your "hidden" parts stop driving the bus. This inner shadow work is the key to how to break the pattern of self betrayal.
what we do together
Establishing Boundaries: Learn how to set boundaries and hold boundaries in a relationship without the crushing weight of guilt.
Working with the Shadow Self: Understand what is shadow self + shadow work to stop the loops of self-doubt.
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Reclaim Your Voice: Use gentle steps that rebuild self trust so you can hear your own inner authority again.
- $300/mo
Life by design 1:1 Coaching Membership
Grounded, honest coaching at your own pace. Using Human Design, we’ll rebuild your self-trust with simple, month-to-month support. No contracts. Cancel anytime.
What’s Included ($1,050+ Value):
Human Design Foundation Analysis ($225 value)
2 Private 60-Minute Sessions/Month ($300 value)
Monthly Connection Chart Reading ($525 value)
24/7 Voxer & Email Support
Your Investment: $300/month
The risk isn’t trying coaching—the risk is another year of not knowing who you are.
what happens if you don't change
Without rebuilding your self-trust, the "slow leak" becomes your permanent reality. You risk:
Losing more years to "what-ifs" and missed opportunities.
Burnout from constantly pleasing others while ignoring your own needs.
Deepening the disconnect from who you actually are, making it even harder to find your way back later.
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Staying stuck in "default mode," letting anxiety and other people's opinions design your life for you.
why I teach this
I wasn’t clueless — I just didn’t understand my patterns. I held on to unhealthy habits and relationships for too long. I avoided conflict and truth, kept the peace to protect others, and then spent hours ruminating.
The real wake-up call was realizing I was so afraid of being left that I started abandoning myself. And that kind of self-betrayal hurts in a way nothing else does.
Learning how to come back to yourself isn’t always comfortable, but it changes everything.
Your personal user manual
Most people try to "think" their way into trusting themselves, but the mind is where the confusion lives. We use Human Design to bypass the minds noise and find your Inner Authority—the specific place in your body that already knows the right answer.
Think of your chart as a practical user manual for how you specifically function. Combined with nervous system support, we don’t just talk about your feelings; we give you the tools to run your life.
No fancy labels. Just a clear path to trusting yourself.
Proof It's working
Here's what people notice when they stop guessing and start working with practical tools.
"Stephen is a fantastic coach! The techniques and insight he has taught me, have been life changing!"
Cody B.
"Stephen is both empathic & firm. He has assisted me in more ways than I can even articulate. I am forever grateful for him."
Megan H.
“Working with Stephen helped me slow down, communicate better, and stop blaming myself every time things went wrong."