About Me
You’re not here because you need to be fixed. You’re here because something feels off—inside you, in your relationship, or in the direction your life is going. Most people don’t need more advice. They need clarity.
I’m Stephen Horn, a Relational & Emotional Intelligence Coach. I work with individuals and couples using Human Design and grounded shadow work. We clarify what you’re feeling, what you need, and what to do next—without me telling you who you are or what you should choose.
This work is personal.
For 32 years, I built my life around the story I was given. I learned to keep the peace, read the room, and make myself easy to accept. I thought that was strength.
Then I asked a question I had never asked before. The answer revealed a lie my mother had kept hidden since I was a child. If that lie shaped my childhood, what else had it shaped? Who was I beneath the roles I learned to play?
That question led me to examine my identity. For years, I believed I was gay. I accepted the label without questioning how it formed. But looking back, I saw how early projection, misunderstanding my emotional depth, and wanting to belong shaped that identity.
As an Emotional Projector, I feel deeply and read energy easily. Admiration and emotional closeness were sometimes mistaken for attraction. Agreeing with the label felt easier than standing alone.
At 33, a quiet thought surfaced: “You’re not gay.” Instead of dismissing it, I questioned everything again.
I began separating what was truly mine from what had been projected onto me. I saw how tightly we cling to identities—even when they no longer fit.
Rewriting my story meant choosing truth over comfort. Letting go of survival patterns. Rebuilding from clarity.
That experience shapes how I coach.
I don’t see people as broken. I see patterns built to survive—over-giving, staying quiet, holding roles to belong. Those patterns once made sense. They may not serve you now.
We name what’s happening. We understand what it’s protecting. Then we build something healthier—clear boundaries, emotional skills, and conversations that don’t require you to shrink.
Human Design is one tool I use. I keep it practical. It helps us understand how you process emotion, make decisions, and respond under stress. It’s not a label. It’s a framework for clarity.
If you’re ready for support that’s honest and grounded, you can explore ways to work with me below.